I find the concept of ‘falling’ fascinating.
It is imperative to learn the ‘how’ of ‘falling’ with trapeze and trampoline work I have done and of course essential in martial arts. However, learning how to fall doesn’t eliminate the fear.
Fear of falling is one of the three fears that are instinctual for human beings: The other two are
- the fear of being imprisoned in a tight space
- the fear of loud noises.
We love falling when we are children and fall so often that it is impossible to keep count.
We fall with ease, laugh when we fall and even if there is ‘a hurt’ involved we are soon up and falling again. What happens to change all this?
If we could enjoy falling once, why not again?
Our early falling is the means to our learning to function upright – discovering the ‘how’ (last month’s newsletter) of being ‘human’
However at some point, we give up the joy and learning that falling affords us.
Falling becomes more associated with failure than discovery.
Over time, like so many skills, we lose our ‘ability to fall’ and worse still, it becomes something we fear and avoid.
A ‘catch 22’ situation develops
- We fear falling therefore we limit our movement – we stop exploring and discovering ’how’.
- Our fear of falling becomes greater, so we restrict the variety of our movement and the use of ourselves even more.
- More anxiety about a fall.
We have 3 ways of dealing with a fall
- Righting ourselves
Having a wide variety of skills in our movement vocabulary enables us to right ourselves rather than fall.
- Changing direction and turning it into something else
How do we break the trajectory of our fall and do something new?
The way we fall is largely determined by our past habits. These forces pushing from the past carry us in a predetermined direction unless we develop the art of turning while falling,
When we are overwhelmed by change it seems as if we are in an impossible situation.
We must learn to change direction and fall gracefully
Go with the fall
Allowing ourselves to fold, soften and ‘go with the fall’ whilst breathing out and keeping our head off the ground.
In learning how to fall we remove the worry ‘what will happen if I fall’?
When we are no longer children it is more difficult to change the trajectory of our lives.
However the more possibilities we experience, the greater the experiential options for balance and the less chance we have of becoming a victim of our fear of falling.
We can break the vicious feedback loop, the self fulfilling prophecy of failure that can shrink our world.
Learning to fall is for most people something new – Maybe, just maybe, it could be fun.
As Hemmingway said about the great bullfighters “Mastering the art of falling is a matter of ‘grace under pressure’ – it gives fallible beings the chance to begin again.”
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